When I first traveled to the Soviet Union, my friends said, “Where do you get the nerve to go there? We’d be too scared.”
That phrase, Get the Nerve, stuck with me for a long time. The problem was, for too many years I didn’t really have the nerve to do half the things I wanted. At the beginning, going to Russia was easy because I was running away from things. It didn’t feel like it took much nerve at all.
I didn’t Get the Nerve to start doing the things I really wanted to until after I was 30 years old, and a lot of them didn’t happen until well past my 40th birthday.
All too often we hold ourselves back from pursuing our dreams, no matter how big or small, because of the voices of parents, friends, teachers, colleagues, and even ourselves echoing in our heads. There’s no shortage of influences that tell us, “No, you can’t.”
This is a “Yes, You Can” blog that raises issues and offers reflections about the workplace, home, and the connection between the two.
The big question is, at this point in your life, have you become convinced that the voices were right and now find yourself paralyzed with fear, uncertainty, anxiety, and self-doubt? If the answer is yes, then it’s likely you’re not serving your company, organization, family, or self as best as you can.
In this blog I’ll talk about three areas that I’m passionate about: time management, communication, and, specifically, managing fear.
These posts will offer practical steps you can take today to set off on your road to your dreams. I will also share stories and observations from my own path to getting what I want.
A word or two about me
I’ve had a long and winding road from just outside New York City to writing these words to you right now in Austin, Texas. (For details, click on the About Joe tab.)
Before I got the nerve to do what it took to have the life I dreamed of, I spent years worrying, procrastinating, being anxious and fearful, and doing just whatever I needed to do to get by.
By managing my fears, I have:
- Overcome my intense fear of public speaking
- Learned to play musical instruments
- Learned foreign languages
- Written three books and translated two more
- Traveled to more than 20 countries
- Earned a Ph.D.
- Taught classes at universities
- Started my own business
- And accomplished a lot of other things
I say all this not to brag but to remind you that there’s so much you’re capable of – there’s so much out there for you – once you learn to believe it. And once you put a system in place.
Remember: the fear did not disappear when I did these things. As the philosophers say, “Courage is acting in spite of fear, not in its absence.”
I hope you join me as I Get the Nerve to blog for the first time in my life.