You may have even clarified exactly what you want and how you’re going to get it.
And then you changed your mind. You got bored with what you were doing and distracted by the new shiny object that came into sight.
You set yourself up for failure by skipping one of the most important steps toward reaching your goals: deciding and committing.
When I was in heavy procrastination mode, I watched countless hours of television. I remember the early days of commercials for P90X, the extreme exercise workout regimen, when they could be seen only at two or three o’clock in the morning.
The thing that caught my eye, besides the madness of the workout itself, was the tagline of Beach Body, the parent company of P90X: Decide. Commit. Succeed®.
This is one of the easiest reminders to memorize and carry with you at all times. Decide. Commit. Succeed.
Here’s a key question to ask yourself: “Have I truly decided what I want?”
Don’t take this word “decided” too lightly. You either decide or you don’t decide; there is no in-between. Unfortunately, you may “decide” several times a week: I’m going to do this. No, I’m going to do that. I’ve changed my mind; I’m going to do something else.
That’s not deciding. Either you’ve decided or you haven’t. You can’t have it both ways.
Deciding is critically important…but it’s not enough.
Once you’ve decided you want to be in charge of your life, that you want to have the life you dream of, you then ask yourself: “Am I committed to it?” You’re either committed or you’re not.
Don’t fool yourself. You can’t be committed to an undertaking and not committed at the same time.
You can’t be committed to exercise and health while continuing to eat a lot of junk food. You can’t be committed to your marriage and run around on the side. You can’t be committed to time management and do nothing to change your self-management.
Here’s what I mean:
Five frogs are sitting on a log. One decides to jump off. How many frogs remain on the log? While you may think the answer is four, it’s not. The answer is five. The frog that decided to jump did just that…decided. But, he didn’t actually jump.
You can decide all you want, but until you act, your decisions don’t really mean much.
A commitment is not simply a promise that you’re going to do something. It’s the action itself. You display your commitment in the doing of a thing. True commitment is staying with the program even when it’s inconvenient or difficult.
When you decide and commit, you dramatically improve your chance to succeed.
Get the Nerve!