You’ve probably heard of the intense workout program, P90X. It’s part of a series of exercise systems like Insanity and Brazil Butt Lift by the parent company, Beach Body.
Beach Body’s motto is Decide, Commit, Succeed.
That’s on my mind a lot on this last day before I get married to Jennifer. It’s got me thinking about the mentors and role models I’ve had over the years who brought this idea of Decide, Commit, Succeed into their relationships.
What was it about their relationships that was so good? How did the men I admire interact and respond with their significant others? What can I learn from them and apply to my own marriage?
When I worked for a year in the Organized Crime Control Department of the Soviet National Police (MVD) in Moscow in 1990, I had the privilege to be under the supervision of Colonel Gennady Chebotaryov, deputy chief of the department.
Gennady was a unique combination of action hero, intellectual, comedian, poet, and nurturing father. He was a man’s man who led operations against gangsters and terrorists, played sports, spoke a foreign language fluently, appreciated music, and always looked for win-win solutions whenever possible.
Besides working with him at MVD headquarters, I spent a lot of time at his apartment, being tutored in Russian by his wife and joining them for dinner.
Whenever his wife, Aida Sergeyevna, would call him from the kitchen, Gennady would be off the couch and moving to the sound of her voice in a split second. He never said, “I’ll be there in a minute,” or “Wait till a commercial.”
He responded in that way because many years earlier he decided to be married to her and then put that decision into action. He understood that most anything he could have been doing in that moment was less important than his wife, their relationship, and his commitment to it.
Part of what I take into my marriage with Jenn is the legacy Gennady left me. Watching him was a reminder that making the decision is important, but it’s not enough. In fact, it’s meaningless without the follow-through, without the commitment.
It’s the same for you in every aspect of your life, whether it’s in your personal relationships or work projects. Success will come only after you make the decision (words) and the commitment (action).
Which person do you want to be: the one who talks about what they decided or the one who commits to those decisions and lives their dreams?
Remember, when all is said and done, more is said than done. Decide, Commit, Succeed.