It’s critical to understand that, ultimately, our biggest obstacles are our self-limiting beliefs.
This may be the single most important idea to grapple with as we imagine the kind of life we want. It’s frequently the only thing standing between us and success.
Success isn’t really about knowing how to do something. Everything we need is already inside of us and everything we need to know is out there waiting for us to pick it up.
We know how to lose weight. We know how to get good grades in school. We know how to become a millionaire. We even know how to land on Mars. And, yes, we know how to overcome fear.
Do you believe you can do it?
A question like this can be a tremendous burden. Most of us can’t change our perspective simply by thinking about it. Reflection and contemplation are necessary, but it’s frequently not enough when we’re trying to prove to ourselves “We can!”
I have found a great way to create positive belief is to act. Pick a relatively small task, like cleaning out a junk drawer or walking a quarter of a mile. Just pick one thing, focus on it, and do it. There, you’ve done it. You’ve proven to yourself it’s possible.
Acting and believing go hand in hand. The more we act, the more we believe. The more we believe, the more we can act in the face of fear. We start to get excited about what’s possible and we want more of it. We start to do what’s possible. After a while, we start to do what we thought impossible.
As we realize the possibilities for our own lives, we will stop inviting negative, toxic people in. We will decrease our gossip, our criticism of other people, and the excuses we rely on to stay safe.
After a while, we will start to see patterns and realize we do everything the same way. Reducing fear and going after what we want will become easier.
I saw these patterns when I studied Russian, Chinese, and Spanish, when I wrote books, when I learned to play music, when I tackled public speaking, when I worked with the media, and everything else I’ve done. Once I learned how to do one, I knew how to tackle the next, and it got easier and easier.
And this from a guy who believed nothing was possible.
Once we truly believe that our biggest obstacle is the way we look at ourselves and our situations, our ability to do something about it will improve dramatically.