Since the beginning of the year I’ve been writing blogs about how you can get more of what you want in life.
Today, I have a really important question to ask you: How big and strong is your lever?
You have big rocks in your life that you have to move. Your big rocks are projects, responsibilities, and opportunities.
Most of the time, you can’t move really big, meaningful rocks by yourself. They’re just too…big. They take time, they’re complicated, and they’re overwhelming.
So, you have to do what people have been doing for many centuries: use levers to lift your big rocks.
The best lever you have is your relationships, your connection to people.
There’s a very simple equation I like to keep in mind. R = P. Relationships equals Power.
When your relationships are in good shape, there are people all around you who are willing to help. They are your lever. And when they have big rocks to move, you’re there to help them. That’s how big rocks get moved.
If you’re unwilling to help others move their rocks, you won’t get nearly as much help as you’re going to need in moving your rocks.
If your attitude is one of constant negativity, complaining, gossip, and criticism, people are less likely to want to be around you, which means you have fewer resources to help you move your big rocks.
It won’t matter what your position or your rank or your salary is. These things are not real power. People can find all kinds of ways to drag their feet when a boss, supervisor, or manager asks them to do something.
You need leverage, an effective way to lift things that are heavier than anything you could possibly lift by yourself.
Are you someone who is easy to work with? Do you help others even when it might be inconvenient? Are you able to lift the biggest rocks in your life?
Take a few minutes this week to assess the state of your relationships. Do any of them need repairing? Do you need to have a conversation or maybe even apologize for something you said or did? Are there toxic people in your life who aren’t in any way helping you lift your big rocks?
When your relationships are in good shape and you’re supportive of others, you’ll find that it will be easier to lift your big rocks.
Get the Nerve!