For the past few months, I’ve been talking about self-management, time management, setting goals, going after your dreams, and a lot of other things. Hopefully, some of it has inspired you to make some changes.
Some of you, though, may be thinking, “This stuff doesn’t work.”
I get that. That’s the perspective I had when I started my own journey. I didn’t believe in most of this stuff. It worked for other people but I didn’t believe it was possible for me.
Putting the tools in place really does work for people—including you. I’m going to share with you a letter I got from Kandy Buntyn who attended one of my training classes in Houston.
Before I do that, I want you to understand that Kandy has the same concerns and worries you do: Do I have enough money? How can I improve my relationship with my spouse and kids? Why does work have to be such a pain in the neck?
She has access to the same excuses you do: I’m too tired. I don’t have the money. This is too difficult.
And she has the same fears you have: What if I make a mistake? What if I embarrass myself? What if no one likes me? What if I end up all alone?
The thing she changed first was her mind—and then all the other pieces fell into place.
Here are excerpts from her letter to me:
I learned I have a voice and every right to use it. I’ve always been the one to stay quiet and please everyone around me but I realized that I too matter. I too have a say in what I choose to do or not do.
When you spoke about Jennifer going after her dream job and not giving up, I too realized that even when at first we don’t succeed, we have to keep trying…. I decided to pursue my goal to value myself more. This has always been difficult for me since I would always let others determine my self-worth. I focused my energy on getting a promotion, which finally happened!
Although I fear the unknown sometimes, I have to go for it. No matter how many times I fall I will keep getting up to face those fears. Now I face new challenges but I’m willing to succeed regardless of what others may think.
As a family we have set clear goals to get to our destination. My husband (who also took the training) was determined to organize the garage. This has always been a sore subject since I always would get upset about the way it looked, but after having participated in the training we jumped on board. With a little motivation he was able to undertake this project. He realized we don’t have to hold on to everything. Life is about evolving and letting things come and go.
The most significant blessing has been the ability to ‘find’ time. It always seems like we don’t have enough hours in the day. We reevaluated our priorities. We now make it a point to spend more time with our kids; they are 5, 4, and 1. They are our world and we were missing out on making lasting memories with them. Although it is easier to sit in front of the couch and flip through the channels, seeing our children smile makes everything worthwhile. We are growing closer as a family, determined to face the world and its challenges.
I’ve learned that while some climb the ladder by skipping a step, taking one step at a time is not a bad thing. At the end we both will make it to the top.
Stop and think about the successes you’ve had. You may be discounting the progress you’re making.
There’s one thing to keep in mind: Your success is a powerful and motivating story for those who are still finding their way. Share your stories. We’d love to hear them. Why don’t you start by putting something in the comments?