Are you struggling with the negative chatter that goes on in your mind? The one that tells you you’re not good enough, you won’t be successful, you just don’t have enough willpower, and other such atrocities?
One of the most powerful things you can do is free yourself from that negative voice in your head.
One of the most powerful forces that creates the negative chatter, makes people feel stuck, and keeps them in that position is fear. Like most people, you might be afraid of a lot of things: making mistakes, embarrassing yourself, being rejected, failure, and even success.
The voice in your head, driven by your fear, helps convince you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, wealthy enough, and on and on. It steals the peace you deserve to feel in your life.
The voice convinces you that you can’t have more than you have today. The voice reminds you that it’s too difficult, too risky, and too dangerous. The voice persuades you to stay stuck.
That voice comes from a lifetime of experiences, observations, feelings, and emotions that you used to create your limiting beliefs about yourself. You listened to the voice so much that you’ve come to believe that it’s right, that there is little hope for change, that you’re not good enough. Many people turn their lives over to the voice.
Part of the problem with the voice is that it’s based on countless assumptions you’ve made over the years that, quite simply, were wrong.
I call it mind reading. When you look at other people and decide what they’re thinking or what they’re concluding about you, you adjust your actions based on your assumptions.
The result is living in the constant fear of what others think of you without actually knowing what that is. Then you stop yourself from really going after what you want.
It’s a vicious circle that keeps you stuck inside a small comfort zone with a loud, negative voice in your head and little idea of what’s possible.
Here are 5 ways to quiet the voice, have a peaceful mind, and get unstuck:
1. Realize that the voice is simply that of belief, and belief can be changed any time you want to change it.
2. Don’t assume other people are right and that they know what they’re doing and you don’t. Most people are suffering from the same negativity and fear.
3. Stop being a mind reader. If you want to know what people think, ask them.
4. Don’t let the voice decide that your mistakes and embarrassments are an indication of your self-worth. They’re learning opportunities to do better next time and move forward.
5. The negative voice encourages you to give your power away to other people—stop giving your power away.
The words of Eleanor Roosevelt are worth remembering: “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway.”
Tell me—what would you do with your life if you could quiet the voice?