Unfortunately, all too often you spend your time locked in a prison of doubt, cynicism, procrastination, fear, judgment, and countless other manacles that keep you from getting what you want, from what you deserve.
Here are four simple ways to begin to claim your freedom:
Free yourself of the constant busyness. Someone warned me a long time ago, “Joe, be careful not to confuse activity with progress.” I have to remind myself of his words on a regular basis. It’s easy to get caught up in motion without paying attention to direction. What can you take off of your plate today? What can you stop chasing right now that you’ve convinced yourself must be done when, in reality, it really doesn’t?
Carve out even just a few minutes each day to sit quietly, breathe, and focus on the things that advance you toward your highest priorities and most important goals.
Free yourself of negative people. It’s time to rid yourself of negative people, naysayers, complainers, whiners, and relentlessly critical people. They are sapping the life out of you. You’re with them because they’re relatives and you think you owe them something, or you don’t know how to say no to people, or, frankly, you’ve become as negative as they are and haven’t even noticed.
Change this by spending less time with negative people and more time with positive people. You will get more of what you want when you’re more selective about the people you hang around.
Free yourself by not trying to please everyone. People think about you and care about you far less than you think. If you’re trying to please parents, relatives, friends at the expense of living the life you envision for yourself, I can promise that you will be disappointed. The sad thing is the disappointment often comes after you’ve wasted countless years chasing an illusion. You think you have to keep the peace and make sure you don’t rock the boat. Everyone has to be happy and all getting along well with each other, you think.
What price are you paying for playing that game? It’s time to make waves, rock the boat, and get what you want, finally.
Free yourself of the need to be right. One of the most powerful habits you can develop is being OK with being wrong. You may think you need to be right all of the time in order to show your worth, in order to save yourself from criticism, in order to keep the people around you who love you. Stop trying so hard to be right and understand that mistakes, responsibility, accountability, and getting up again after a fall are the things that make you strong. Your need to be right all the time is an expression of your own insecurity, denying your humanness and fallibility.
You don’t need to impress anyone. Focus more on learning, failing, and learning some more.
It’s easy to celebrate freedom that others fought for. It’s time to dig in and fight for your own freedom.
Get the Nerve!