You will gain clarity about the task before you and you’ll find it easier to say no to requests for your time at those times when you should say no.
The three questions are:
1) Who am I?
2) What do I want?
3) How am I going to get it?
These are seemingly simple questions on their surface, especially number two and three, but don’t be fooled. These are cornerstone questions that, when answered as fully as possible, will take you on an incredible journey.
They will take you deep inside your Self.
Who am I?
When you pose this question to yourself, you are reflecting largely on your past. Where did you come from? How did your childhood influence who you are today? What habits, attitudes, values, and beliefs did you inherit from those around you? What assumptions and expectations did you choose to carry with you as truth that formed the way you look at yourself? How have these impacted your decisions in life? How do they influence how you spend your time?
What do I want?
This question puts you squarely in the present. It will require some imagination about the future, but you have to answer it now, before moving on. In the cold light of day, without considering obstacles, without fear of fear, ask yourself, “What do I want?” The key is to be as specific and detailed (and bold!) as possible and address the major parts of your life: relationships, health, career, finances, and others. The answers you give will be influenced by who you think you are.
How am I going to get it?
This question is about working today to create your future. This is the stage at which you will strategize, plan, and get to work. You’ll come up against obstacles and fears, and you will have a plan for dealing with them. You will get frustrated. This is when you will need to remember who you are and what you want. This is where you’ll show yourself how badly you want it.
These questions require you to face the brutal facts about who you are, where you are, and how you got there. They will help you define what you want to stop doing, what you will continue doing, and what you will start doing. They may require some forgiveness of yourself and others as well as letting go of long-held beliefs that have kept you stuck.
These are not simple questions with easy answers, but it should be clear that they are directly connected to your time management. If you don’t begin to answer these questions, how will you know what to spend your time on?
Answer the three core questions to begin to clarify how you will best use your time.
Get the Nerve!