Archives for October 2016

Why do I procrastinate?

 

What am I waiting for?It’s easy to give in to fear and not act.

If we don’t act, we say to ourselves, we can spare ourselves the anxiety of having to face a less-than-perfect self.

If we do act, and it doesn’t go well, we’re forced to acknowledge we’re not perfect and risk shame, guilt, and other uncomfortable emotions.

But once we choose to realize that perfection, procrastination, and blaming are no-win situations, we can move forward. [Read more…]

How to recover from burnout

 

Burnout doesn't have to take overBurnout is caused by long-term stress driven by a large gap between your expectations and realities. This often creates the illusion that you don’t have a choice anymore.

You’ve been making so many judgments from a place of being totally stressed out that you think it’s either normal or out of your control. When you’re clear about your beliefs, values, priorities, and whether you’re
driven by an internal or external locus of control, you’ll have a much better idea how to respond to things that happen around you.

Whether you realize it or not, you get to choose how you respond to each and every event that happens. [Read more…]

1 small change to transform your time management

Everything in our lives is connected

The various segments of your life, like your finances, relationships, physical well-being, and career, are all connected and make a whole. If you change one, it will impact the others. Turbocharging your time by developing a good system is about positively impacting your highest priorities with the least amount of energy.

Creating a system will help you get much more done than if you don’t have one. Think about some of the biggest systems we have: government and corporate bureaucracies. While many of us think of the word “bureaucracy” negatively, the fact is they are systems that coordinate and accomplish huge projects.

The parts of a system, by definition, are interconnected and influence each other. Changing one part of a system will affect other parts, even if you can’t see a direct connection. It’s critical to keep that in mind, whether at work or at home. [Read more…]

What’s keeping you from living the life you want?

 

Understand your fearsIf you’ve ever really stopped to think about the life you want and realized you’re not living it, it can be painful. You might even feel like a victim of your life, like life is just happening to you and you don’t know how to turn things around.

Beginning to realize and face your fears is critical to a turnaround; by changing yourself, you can impact everything around you. There are two basic kinds of fear we all have, and it’s important to examine from time to time how the more potent and challenging kind of fear impacts our lives.

First, we have a fear of things that happen, typically things that are beyond our control. We fear being alone. We fear growing old. We fear illness ravaging our bodies and stealing our vitality. We fear dying.

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