Archives for November 2014

Is your to-do list part of the problem?

Make a to-do list that works for you.

Got a lot on your plate? Feeling especially stressed out? If you’re not getting to everything on your to-do list, it may be because you’re actually sabotaging your own efforts.

It probably feels like there’s not enough time in the day. You may be overwhelmed by everything that needs to get done. And your list is long and getting longer.

And that might actually be part of the problem.

Most people I speak with have too many items on their to-do lists. Frequently, they have more than 10 items on the list to get done in one day. The way they manage their to-do list—not the actual amount of work they have—is actually a significant contributor to their stress.
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How to avoid the guilt of letting yourself down

Don't give in to what you don't really want.

I talk a lot about thinking in advance in order to get what you want.

If you have goals you’re trying to reach, you have to think in advance about how to get them, how to minimize interruptions, and how to push forward in the face of failure or mistakes.

If you want to have good relationships at work or at home, you have to think in advance about how you’re going to respond to disagreements, people pushing your buttons, and temper tantrums.

If you want to retire well, you have to think in advance about how much money you’ll want to have and how much you’ll need to save now in order to reach that amount. [Read more…]

4 ways to deal with interruptions

How do you handle interruptions?

One of the biggest problems you’re dealing with at work is probably interruptions. And it’s also one of the biggest excuses you’re using for not getting your stuff done.

Of course, there are times you just can’t avoid being interrupted, especially if it’s your supervisor who’s interrupting you. There are so many more times you allow yourself to be interrupted and then blame it on someone else.

The fact of the matter is most people experience interruptions but don’t realize that very often they are the ones in the driver’s seat, not the person interrupting.

The reasons you allow interruptions can be wide-ranging, but most often they’re driven by your inability or unwillingness to be “less than friendly” to people. For whatever reason, you don’t know how to say no. [Read more…]

10 great questions to ask when setting a goal

10 great questions to ask when setting goals

The end of the year is upon you. Typically, this is the time of year you think about what you’ve accomplished and what might remain unfinished.

You’re also thinking about what you may want to achieve in the coming year.

All too often, goals are left to chance, and dreams remain simply that, dreams. You may be getting tired of it all.

Being smart about your goals means you have a plan, a blueprint, to make the road a bit easier. Here are 10 great questions to ask when setting a goal: [Read more…]

The surprising way to make work-life balance work

Should you try to achieve work-life balance?

Work-life balance. You’ve heard it a thousand times and probably thought about your own quite a few more times than that.

Where is this elusive balance? What does it even mean?

When we think of balance, we often think of scales. More importantly, we think that in order to achieve balance, both sides of the scale should be equal.

Is that what we really think about work and life? They should be equal? Equal how? The number of hours we spend working should equal the number of hours we spend “living”? The amount of joy we get out of work and life should be equal? [Read more…]