Archives for January 2014

How to gracefully stop a chatterbox so you can get back to work

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Today’s Q&A is a great question.

“I have a coworker who’s always coming in to my office to talk. I have work to do, but it’s so hard for me to tell that person to go away. I don’t want to be mean and come across as rude. What can I do?”

This is a very common situation and a tough one to be in. Dealing with a heavy talker creates a lot of tension, frustration, and even fear. It can feel impossible to tell someone to leave you alone without hurting them, and you may fear the repercussion of a hostile working environment. At the same time, it’s not fair for you to be looked down on by your superiors for wasting time when you don’t want to. [Read more…]

The most important thing you’re probably not thinking about

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If someone asks you, “What’s your vision for your life?” what would you say? And don’t say 20-20…

But let’s actually talk about it in terms of eyesight for a second.

Some people tell themselves their vision is good enough, but it’s really not. Things aren’t as clear as they need to be. [Read more…]

The critical things you need to learn about how to say “No”

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For this week’s Q&A, let’s talk about how to take back your life! Here’s a question I received:

I’m so tired of doing everything for everyone else and never having enough time to do the things I really want to do for myself. How can I learn to say no to people?

Putting yourself first isn’t easy, no matter who you are. But, it’s incredibly important. [Read more…]

What to do when you feel like you just can’t get started on a project

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So, you have a new project to work on. You’re looking at it, you feel it looking at you, you’re both sizing each other up. You know you could get started right now and probably knock it out quickly. But for some reason, you just can’t. (And you sense your project mocking you.)

Moving from inaction to action can be one of the hardest things. But why?

Frequently, your brain moves faster than your body, telling you all the reasons you should go slow, telling you all the prep work that must be done before you can begin, telling you how scary it will be. So, you wait until the last minute, telling yourself you do your best work under pressure. (No, you don’t.) [Read more…]

How do I save for emergencies and get over my shopping addiction?

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Q&A is something I’m now doing weekly in this blog. Here’s a great question I received that I know other people have as well:

Inevitably, when I build up a small amount of savings, I end up using it for life’s little emergencies and cannot seem to build up a decent emergency fund.  In addition, I struggle with a moderate shopping addiction.  Any suggestions on addressing this destructive habit and building an emergency fund?

Let’s first talk about your emergency fund. I’d like you to ask yourself if “life’s little emergencies” are really things that you had no idea would happen, like emergency surgery, or if they are things that come up infrequently, like needing new tires. [Read more…]