Archives for January 2013

The Number One Way to Help You Decide

I’ve talked about the importance of “deciding” and “committing.” You’ve either decided or you haven’t. You can’t be “kind of decided” or “kind of committed.” Either you are or you aren’t.

Today, let’s talk about this issue of deciding. It’s easy to say you have to decide, but what does that mean? A lot of us struggle with the process of deciding. And, in many cases, we don’t actually have much of a process at all.

How long have we bounced from idea to idea, job to job, or relationship to relationship, not really sure of what we want? How many times have we convinced ourselves that we’ve “decided” only to change direction a few days or weeks later? Months and even years can pass and we still haven’t gained significant ground. [Read more…]

Forget About Resolutions

Today is New Year’s Day. It’s the beginning of a new cycle in our lives. Many of us embrace it as a chance to wipe the slate clean, start over, especially if last year wasn’t so wonderful. Many of us will resolve to do things differently, to do things better, to change.

Many of us will fail.

To me, the word “resolution” is too heavy. It’s so heavy it weighs me down. For me, it’s counterproductive. It’s an emotional and psychological chain with huge, thick links that wraps me up and pins me to the ground. [Read more…]