1 critical way to get what you want


By helping others we help ourselvesSince the beginning of the year I have been writing blogs about ways to get more of what you want out of life. Step by step, little by little, you can change things to make your journey a little easier, a little more fun, more meaningful, and more successful.

Most of what I have been writing about has to do with things you can do by yourself and for yourself to improve your time management, your income, your state of mind, and a lot more.

Today, I want to talk about a critical piece in the process that I haven’t mentioned yet. Here it is:

Engage with people and help them whenever you can with no expectation of return.

The most valued friendships and experiences of my life have come from being as pleasant as I can with people and helping them whenever I can when they need a hand.

I’m reminded of all of this because of what my wife and I did recently.

We helped some friends move.

That’s not particularly special or momentous; the important part is that we did it.

It would have been nice to have spent that Saturday at the movies, watching TV, walking around town, or going to a restaurant. But, when someone needs help, it’s a good thing to step up.

Here’s the back story: the people we helped move were Donald and his wife. I met Don in Moscow in 1993 for about five minutes. Thirteen years later, I met his father in East Texas by total coincidence. His father reconnected us and, since 2012, Don and I have been in touch.

Engaging with Don in Moscow got the ball rolling. Meeting his father looped me back to Don. Staying in touch with Don got my wife connected with his wife. Helping them move cemented our relationship even further.

Be clear about something: my wife and I didn’t help Don and his wife because we expected something in return. We helped because they needed help.

I have found over and over that when I engage people and help them whenever I’m in a position to help, it comes back to me.

Sometimes it comes back to me just in the good feeling I frequently get when I help others.

Sometimes it comes back to me in the form of new friendships that last for years and years.

Sometimes it comes back to me in the form of opportunities that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. Sometimes these opportunities are just fun experiences; sometimes they’re business projects that give me more experience and generate income.

For example, Don and I now work together whenever possible. The relationship continues to create opportunities for each of us.

When you’re open to connecting with people and helping whenever possible, it has uncanny way of creating more of what you want in life.

What can you do this week to help someone else?

Do it because you want to help and have no expectation of getting anything in return. Do this as a regular practice and I promise that you will get a lot in return and it will change your life.

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About Joe Serio

Dr. Joe Serio is a keynote speaker, trainer, and author who helps the people in your organization navigate resistance to change so they can move forward successfully.

2 Responses

  1. Jan King says:

    Joe, more sage advice from your fountain of wisdom born from experience!! Thank you for this very timely reminder!

    • Joe Serio says:

      Thanks, Jan. We have so much we can positively influence and yet, so many of us end up sabotaging ourselves. We are powerful individuals with choices to make. How our lives turn out is generally a function of those choices.


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